Not Feeling It
What do you do when you have one of “those” days? You know the ones I am talking about. Even though nothing BIG happened, you feel as if the weight of the world comes crashing down all at once. Hang on my friends, it’s about to get real.
I am in the middle of a transition. I have goals and dreams that I want to accomplish. I know that my current occupation is not where my talents are best utilized. The company I work for is great and there is nothing wrong with the job itself. I just can’t seem to grab a hold of the picture of my future. So after a work day that drains me I experience an overwhelming feeling of being trapped. The left side of my brain tells me it’s not financially prudent to jump ship at this moment. The right side of my brain is screaming, “Get out now!”
Sometimes, a person who is feeling extremely emotional, or “prickly” as we call it in our house, may want to take those emotions out on the nearest person or animal or piece of furniture. I want to point you in another direction – processing those raw emotions in a healthy way. The pets will thank you.
What is an emotionally healthy person to do in this situation? First of all, identify exactly what it is I am feeling. In other words, check in with yourself. Be honest and don’t stuff those emotions under the rug. It’s also not healthy to explode with emotions, although it happens. This is where grace and forgiveness comes in. Sometimes, the check in is the hardest step. Sometimes I need to take five, go for a walk, or shut the door for a bit and I have to give myself permission to do so. So when I do the check in - I am feeling like I can’t get to where I want to be in the time frame I constructed in my head. There may be a little bit of anger present even. Own the emotions, they are part of living.
Second, take responsibility for the emotions. Whose fault is it that I feel this way right now? Was there something I did or neglected to do that got me here? Am I a victim of circumstance? Actually, in this case no one is to blame. I have a tendency to be less than patient. Ask my mom. So I need to take the accountability for this and understand that I may need a little more patience. I realize that building a business from the ground up takes time. I have to wait (UGH) and keep working on the building blocks that will make me successful.
Lastly, look back and see how the forward movement. Am I in the same place I was 1 month ago, 3 months ago, 6 months ago? If the answer is no, I am making progress, and I need to celebrate those accomplishments again. If the answer is yes, then I need take a look at some areas that need to change and work on a plan to make that happen. An accountability partner would be a huge asset to have in this situation. As I look back - I have actually come a long way in the past 6 months. So it helps to see those milestones again and realize that forward progression is happening.
My friends, experiencing emotions is part of who we are. God created us this way and does not want us to avoid them. It’s all about how you handle those emotions. In all emotional situations, you have an advocate to help you: God is our refuge and strength; an ever present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
I welcome your thoughts on how you handle your emotional situations.
Yours with questions,